Wedding what would you do...

Marriages are strange ... as I well know after 47 years ...

I was the 'best man' at our friends wedding and everyone thought it would be my t'other half or his other best mate ... but he chose me ...



... strangely, after the wedding, she had nothing to do with me and we had known her for years whilst she was married and having an affair with our best friend ...

Edit: Meant to say ... my t'other half on the left, the bride, me, then the groom. We are standing on a slope at the church (oddly next door to our house) ... t'other half is 5'8", bride is 5'7", I am 5'3" and groom is 5'6" so we all look a bit lopsided!

 

I've yet to go to a wedding where there has ever been any hassle or fighting.Most people know how to behave themselves on such a special day

 

So they sent you a "Save the date card in January", like 11 months notice. hum. If I gave someone 11 months notice to attend something, I would be sure upset if they could not make it.
Ok, so back to the gift. I base my wedding gift--first on the estimated cost of the dinner that I will eat, booze and add to that. So as your not attending, and they gave you 11 months notice, I would send them something.

 

I got married twice, once in 1979 and once in 1989. Paid for both my weddings myself. Kept the quest list short, do recall some of the gifts, decent money etc. Went on decent honeymoons also. The one thing that did bother me, was how rude people are that simply do not show up and say they would, and you paid for their meal. Got wise with the second one, said a smaller number to the caterers and sure enough did not get stuck, cause one couple decided to be a no show.

 

Redstar,we told the family as soon as we got the save the date card because Mr Kandy already knows that the place he works at is going to be busy in the run up to Xmas,it is the same every year and isn't going to change any time soon.When you are dealing with the public there has to be someone on standby to make sure that equipment is put right because if you don't then they are the first to complain

The other year he was on call out over Christmas and we we're in the middle of a restaurant meal when his phone went off so he had to apologise to everyone and then had to stand outside in the cold talking to the people on the other end that had problems what they needed to do to try and put things right

If the wedding had been on the Saturday or Sunday then there wouldn't have been a problem,but not on a day of the week when Mr Kandy has to work (Monday)

 

@Shiney,when I was younger weddings were always performed on a Saturday throughout the day,usually from around 11ish onwards to give the bride/bridesmaids time to have their hair done make up put on and then get into their outfits and relatives time to arrive.

Sunday's had always been the day of Christenings and church services but I dont know what happens these days as not many people go to church or have weddings/ Christenings and the only time I see churches full is when Songs of Praise is on the telly or people go to the midnight church services on Christmas Eve

 

Kandy, for my job, I am on call 7 days a week, 365 days a year, 24 hours a day. I deal with lots of human beings medical issues and staff situations. My cell is always on. When I go away, its planning, planning, planning. Making sure things are in place and being available to direct from afar. My recent away, for this Thanksgiving, got calls when traveling there, and some during, but it was handled. I make sure I have good well trained staff on site, that make correct decisions on their own. I am blessed to have some good staff.