Ever wished you had not asked :-(

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  1. Jack McHammocklashing

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    I have been retired now for six months
    I had sent emails to two work collegues but no reply

    Yesterday I replied to an email from an aquaintance who works there
    who automatically sends me funnies Almost daily
    I explained could she fill me in of what was going on in my old work place

    Collegue/Friend one Dave aged 51 went off sick with flu and died Aug 23rd
    Collegue/Friend two Ian aged 53 dropped dead at work Aug 25th

    I say friends as they were more than collegues, Ian in particular was retiring
    at 55 and I had put him onto ex forces accomodations for sale cheap in Spain
    as his intention was to take his money and retire to the Sun NEVER HAPPENED

    Dave again more than work collegue, but not nights out drinking buddies etc
    just a good work friend, we used to do each other good favours

    Sad but glad I know where they are and not a life mystery of being ignored :-(

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    Which is a good example of "Live for today, for tomorrow may never come"!

    Sorry to hear about your friends, Jack.
     
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      Blimey Jack, that's bad news. Such a shame when they die so young :(
       
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        Aw jack thats awful esp to hear by email :cry3:xx
         
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          OMG Jack, thats so sad. Lost for words for once.
           
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            Condolences Jack Sad Sad News :cry3: Young Blokes as well

            And old saying Treat Every Day like its your last Day on Earth that way You will All ways make the most of your day ;)
             
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              Sorry to hear your sad news Jack - sadly, that seems to be the way of things for many nowadays. In the last six weeks, I've had two of my colleagues die, with the eldest being 66; admittedly, one of them had been ill for a while, but that doesn't lessen the impact any.
               
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              That's very sad Jack, Three people I knew well at work all died in their first year of retirement in my last year at work, it wasn't a comfortable feeling.
               
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              That's awful Jack, sorry to hear that.
               
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              Jack,
              I think fate is telling you just to get on and live YOUR life - YOUR way. Enjoy every moment that you have to witness all the things around you that give you a BUZZ. Your family, friends ( real friends), your garden and this new Photography module. You and I are fit and able to take the time to enjoy life Jack. You've earnt the right to that time.
              Just enjoy,
              Jenny
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                Yes, live for today. Whilst living in Cyprus for 12 years, over that period, we lost 46 friends and aquaintances, the worst was the parents of a lad who was 17 at the time, over the space of 10 days both his parents died, both from cancer.God, it was so sad to see him. Luckily his older siblings took him under their wings. :sad:
                 
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                Sorry to hear this Jack:sad:....I thank my lucky stars that my parents have had a long and reasonably fit retirement....it's so sad to hear of folks slogging their guts out and then ...curtains....they deserve so much more....i'm hearing too many stories like this these days...to the point that i'm trying to keep out of the mindset that folks are lucky to even reach retirement.....so i say ...Go for it ...waste not a second ....be happy:dbgrtmb:...
                All alot easier said than done though.....
                 
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                  Dear Loli,
                  keep this mindset always in focus. Your health is more important than a few more quid that comes with promotion and the like. I am not £ rich but I am contented. I am not saving up for gold handles ON MY CoFFIN !!
                  Amen,
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                    This story reminds me of a colleague I used to work with. He was well liked by everyone but when he retired we never heard anything from him for months which we all thought was strange We just assumed he was getting on with life. Then someone tried to contact him about the office christmas lunch, shockingly we discovered he died within a couple of months of retirement of a heart attack. His widow had rang our HR dept to tell them straight away but they didn't think to tell his ex-colleagues (i.e. us his friends). So none of us work friends went to his funeral or sent cards, very sad, and his widow must have thought we were a selfish lot. But what a poor show from our inhuman HR dept.
                     
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                      so sorry for your losses Jack :grphg:
                       
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