I've not been about much lately

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  1. longk

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    I've not been about the forum much of late. Not because I'm bored of it, not because anyone has piddled me off or for any other reason other than a tangled love life. Although that situation is now resolved I'll only be about infrequently for a while.

    So fear not, it's not your fault it's mine.
     
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    • lolimac

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      Good to see you @longk ...wondered where to pigging 'ell you where..you've been missed.:thumbsup:
       
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        Have noticed your absence and beautiful photography of all things exotic, but pleased you have not abandoned us.
        Hoping you find peace and sendingHugs.jpeg xx


         
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        • Snorky85

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          Hope you are ok @longk :grphg: Keep checking in :)
           
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          • ARMANDII

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            You have been missed, longk, to be honest. I thought you'd gone off us or gone off on holiday, but at least we know you're okay.
            Love lifes are extremey personal, so I'll make no other comment than I wish you well and hope it's sorts itself out without too much pain.:love30:
             
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              Glad to hear you're not peed off with me or anyone else and I do love your photography and hope to see more soon. :)
               
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                Hi mucka, hope you're ok. You'll get through I know you're a strong person.

                Keep checking in when you can :)
                 
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                  Well, at least you know where your friends are, Pal.:thumbsup:
                   
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                    They are and I'm not going to comment beyond the following;
                    The circumstances in which I met my new partner were such that I could not avoid having a long and deeply personal conversation with her. After three hours we decided to meet weekly for a chat as friends and introduced ourselves and shook hands. That handshake changed everything - it was like an electric shock and genuinely heartstopping. It took a couple of months before one of us broached the subject as both of us were struggling with what had happened for our own reasons. During that period my (now) ex suffered a terrible experience which left me in the position of having to support her as she got through it. So I was having an affair, albeit a chaste affair, unable to change my feelings yet having to be a rock to the woman that I would ultimately have to hurt myself. I'm not looking for sympathy or anything like that (and there are two members of this forum who know what my ex suffered who are probably disgusted with me right now) but I could never have envisaged myself being in such a situation until this happened.
                    We are all sorted now. My new partner and I are very happy and things with my ex ended without any ill feeling (she was in London yesterday for work and we met up for dinner yesterday evening) and the financials are done and dusted awaiting signatures. But it was a headspinner for a few months.

                    Thanks all.
                     
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                      Life does test you, I'm afraid. But you seem to have come through it, and I wish you and your Partner and long and happy life together.
                       
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                      • KFF

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                        I hope that life is going to stop throwing curveballs at you now and you two can just settle together and have a happy and good life together.
                         
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                          I wish you all the best :grphg:
                           
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                            Good to see you @longk .
                            Nobody here will judge you, how can we?
                            Our heart rules where love is involved and more often than not we just have to sit back, hold tight and see if it's going to be a bumpy or smooth ride, often with many dark tunnels .Thankfully you have come out the other side now and things have settled....I wish you all the happiness in the world. x
                             
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                              You can't change how you feel Longk despite you feeling bad about breaking your previous relationship. I wish you both happiness for your future together. :)
                               
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                                @longk I wish you all the best for the future and that you sorted it all out, things like that happen in life. :smile:
                                 
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