Did not really get what happened Andy, regarding who's uncle etc. But, Bottom line. But, yes it is your and your sweeties day. I did not get who is paying for the wedding, or if anyone's parents are chipping in. As far as who to invite, I usually title the guest list with "Those people who have really cared about me all may life" and that list is short. As far as myself---planned and paid for all for TWO of my own weddings. The first, my aunt ran off with her suggestions 'you should do this and you should do that" (I was 27 years old then) So said to her, what money are you sending me to help with those suggestions---ahhh she shut up. And my mother was not involved then at all. My father had passed on by then. Guest list was 75 people. My second --age 36 again, paid/planned myself, no issues from his parents, did my own thing, husband really did not interfere too much, guest list was 45 people. Had a nice venue for both, great food, and live music. But you have to invite some nutty family members, won't be fun without one or two and the later gossip is priceless.
Everyone is chipping in Redstar and it was a cousin rather than uncle that is coming when they were originally not supposed to be. The grand total of guests is now up to 30 people so not a huge event lol
Whenever I had a problem I blamed myself for picking the wrong parents - and told them so! After the first time they then found it funny. Never any interference from them after that.
With wedding arrangements, for the love of God, don't let your/Erica's mother take over. Do what you want as you will regret it afterwards, believe me!
Erm, quite. Not a chance of it happening! I'll recommend it to Erica - I actually like my parents! Think they did a bang up job of raising such a charming wonderful human being lol
I recall the day my mother-in-law preened with delight when I said to her: "The one thing I envy Mr Mum for? His in-laws" She never did get it
Good one Mum. And love that Shiney, should use it one day. I am remembering something my mother-in-law asked me to do. A little background, I have always worked full-time out of the home 40plus hours weekly. So two weeks prior to our wedding we made settlement on our home, I moved in to the home, continued to plan my wedding with no help, and worked untill about 4 days before the wedding. During this time my mother-in-law who does not work outside the home asks me to take her shopping for her dress for our wedding. Now she has a daughter that lives near and I live one hour away from her. Never did she ask me if she could help me with my wedding planning etc. But to do something for her. I know it did not happen, do not recall the excuse I made. Still think it was selfish on her part.
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Well if they get round to reading it then they'll know how their daughter was stuck in the middle of a very petty opinion and odd reaction on their part and how we considered telling them to poke it! No-one should treat their daughter like that. Ta for the offer though All back on an even keel at least. I'll not be speaking or seeing them any time soon so it will all be calm waters from here on in I'm sure... maybe with the odd shark