Long lost friends

I am not too sure about getting back in contact via facebook, myspace or friends reuinited-I think there are usually very good reasons why you lost touch in the first place, maybe that will change as I get older, but right now no.

 

I totally agree. That's the same reason I haven't bothered with any of the social networking sites. Most of the friends I've lost touch with over the years I have a very good reason for losing touch with, such as that one of us changed in a way that made us incompatible as proper friends. For example a lad that was once my best mate, who came from a rather deprived neighbourhood and a family that didn't have two pennies to rub together, went off and became a dad and wouldn't take his son round to see his parents because he was ashamed of them because their house was less than perfect. That's not the attitude of the lad I was best mates with, so we drifted apart and frankly I don't care.

On the other hand in the case of one particular friend, the lady who randomly popped into my head and prompted me to start this thread, we drifted apart not because our changing attitudes made us incompatible as friends, but because she found herself in an unpleasant situation and pushed all her friends away. Its a story that's all too common. She met a lad that at first was very charming and all round top bloke. Then he started controlling her. She quite literally wasn't allowed any friends of her own, even female friends. The last time any of our circle of friends had a proper chat with her she broke down in tears and said if her bloke found out she'd even spoken to anyone her life wouldn't be worth living when she went home. That was years ago, and the bloke is no longer on the scene. A few people I know have seen her around once or twice over the years (including me) and she always looks at us with recognition, but seems afraid to make eye contact. A few years ago I saw her in a pub, and she said hiya. That's sounds like nowt but after years of being too afraid to even be seen acknowledging anyone that was quite a breakthrough for her. This is why I won't try to contact her. If she is still of the mindset that being seen to know somebody will only lead to trouble for her, even if that's not true anymore, it would only freak her out.

 

i accidently found a long lost uncle,I DID NOT KNOW I HAD!! this was back in 1959. i was doing my tick man(shilling a week man) or as i was called, a TRAVELLER. i had various areas in glasgow.EASTERHOUSE,CASTLEMILK,GOVAN,POSSILPARK,SCOTSTOUN and other areas all around GLASGOW.i had been to a house every week to collect cash and i never got an answer to the door for about 10 weeks .this friday night i rapped at the door ,and low and behold! the door opened ,(about 6 inches). i informed this man who i was ,what he owed, and how much he was in arrears, with his account and if he did not start paying something i would have to report to my office ,and court procedings would follow.he offered me some money and told me to come every friday at 7 o clock ,and he would pay this till the outstanding bill was clear. i said great ,took the money he gave me ,as he appologised for the bad lighting in the house, IT WAS LIT IN CANDLELIGHT. he said the fuse had blown and he did not have a spare!!!! (next liar take the stand).
as i was chatting to him ,i reffered to his name as being very uncommon,as my father had this uncommon name, (my dad had 4 names before his surname).he took a good look at me (with the candle) and said !you are not J*** co*****s co****** m**** m********. son ???. astonished i said yes .thats when i found my long lost uncle! . to cut a long story short went home told my father who i had met that day. he said (I HOPE YOU DID NOT GIVE HIM OUR ADDRESS!!!!) I TOLD HIM I DID. my long lost uncle came to our house ,him and my dad went to the pub, he borrowed
5 pounds from my dad, and we never seen him again,or niether did the company i worked for..
i left the company a few weeks later (never again a tick man!) MUSIC.