Feeling a bit low.

Hi Lyn,

I help my sister in law with her garden at the weekends,shes a single mum & now a full time carer for her mum, who is totally disabled, so she's not got much time spare.

I've found weeding takes up a disproportional amount of time so i'm mulching wherever i can & putting carpet down on the paths in the veg plot.

Its made a difference already, didn't have to weed half of it last weekend, freeing up time to plant stuff & do a bit of fishing.

Like the others say, make sure you enjoy the garden too, thats what its all about.

 

I've had a good old cut back and tidy over the passed few days.
Just starting to get straight and the rain comes LOL
Would you believe it.
It is looking a lot better.
I even emptied the compost bin.
Which was full of ants, yuk ( got some lovely soil out of it )
And half filled it again with the shredded pruning.
The shredder as been working overtime.
Everything looks more defined now instead of just one big mess.
The ponds are clean.
The borders are weeded.
And the grass is cut.
They have been to empty the garden waste bin, so all I need is the weather to improve.
I draw the line at gardening in the rain.:lollol:
Feeling Good.
Thank you all

 

I know what you are dealing with Lyn. I lost my husband in April, he used to do the mowing and all the hard digging, putting up trellis, and he built a lovely pagoda. I could not face the garden until recently although we had just had a new greenhouse that we had been looking forward to but just before he passed away, but it did not hold any joy for me. A neighbour kindly came round and clipped my side of the conifer hedge that belongs to next door the other day, he said he could see that it needed doing from his bedroom window. So much to do but now I know with help I must get down and put my back into it. Hope hubby gets work soon Lyn and things get easier for you.

 

Hello Lizyann.
I'm so sorry for your loss.I just can't imagine my life without my husband, never mind the garden. I'm glad neighbours are coming round to help. I'm sure it's a comfort in some small way. I don't know what else to say to you. I only hope you can find a way to go on.

Hello Lyn.
So glad to hear you are happier with your garden now. It's obviously very important to your personal happiness - as it is to mine. I think I would just go mad without a good garden.
But can I just say this - take it kindly.
You say your husband can't help as he's not a gardener.
For most of what you're doing it's not a gardener you need - it's a general labourer.
Could your husband help if he was given very specific instructions about what to do.
Men do seem to have blind spots about things, but are very good and willing and able once they know what is required. Not being sexist here, there are just things men sometimes don't get. I'm sure men could list the things women just don't get (well I can't read a map and my husband just can't see what my problem is).
Maybe if you tried the "could you help me by doing" some very specific task, you could get help in the garden.
Sorry for the long post.
Maybe I'm off beam but it's a thought. And maybe the approach will get you some help.

 

Hello Alice thank you for your kind words

Hello Lyn
It sounds as though you have made a jolly good start on sorting your garden and that it is now looking quite smart I shall just have to get my finger out and get sorting mine out .

 

You are certainly not alone in how you feel, and in the same thought, how you husband also feels after loosing his job.

I've been self employed for 22yrs now, and the last two have been atrocious, not just because work has been very tight or non existent, but also my health has taken a severe knock.
In the last two months things have become far worse and I'm struggling to not only work, but also with the mammoth tasks that need doing in the garden.
I'm tired and drained, but feel guilty for even thinking like this, when so many others with serious illness etc never moan.

Sometimes you just need to sit back and look at what you have achieved, rather than what you haven't.

 

Unemployment is horrific in every way imaginable. I get furious when I hear people, egged on by - erm - certain newspapers and parts of the media - go on about "scroungers" who are out of work, as if it is a pleasant way to exist.

And as for this god awful government we now have, not only making more people unemployed, but at the same time cutting the help they need to get back into work... GRRR.... anyway, I better stop there as this isn't the place....

My recent experience was horrendous. But, eventually, and with help from friends, family, various government schemes etc, I got back on my feet and am now self-employed, and loving it. It could, in time, turn out to be one of the best things that ever happened.

One door closes, another opens etc.